Choose Feelings
20 December 2023
If your days seem filled with unwanted negative feelings, there is only one cure. When they come, choose them. Don’t ask why, don’t wonder how, don’t fight them and never put yourself down for having them. But most of all never blame someone else for how you feel. If you do, it means you are still fast asleep and your choice is to be a victim.
When the feelings come, even big disturbing emotional feelings say, “I choose this feeling” and know it comes because of something you have thought or done in the past, perhaps a certain belief that you have learned or an attachment that is threatened.
Choice does not mean you want the feelings, but it does mean you are taking responsibility for them. And that is the beginning of self mastery. It is the first step to the healing and resolving of your emotions. But only the first step. Try this today and then ask yourself what the next step might be. If you are really interested to know, you will come to know!
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Very nice
I try to control my self and get rid of the hurting emotions when they come to my mind but my thoughts automatically run back and back to negative feelings of what has happened in the past though I tell myself to forget the past and move forward. What should I try to keep myself from not getting such negativity always. What steps should I take. What is the next step mentioned above. When will I know that I have achieved getting rid of negative hurtful feelings, I am trying to concentrate on this daily, but still I have not… Read more »
It sounds like you’re really putting in the effort to manage your feelings and move forward, which is commendable. Remember, the process of handling negative emotions and past hurts is a journey and often not a quick fix. Here are some steps you might find helpful: Acknowledge and Label the Feelings: You’re already practicing awareness by recognizing these negative emotions. Try going a step further by naming them (“I feel hurt”, “I feel angry”). This can reduce their intensity and make them more manageable. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to have these feelings. They don’t make you… Read more »
Thank you. This advice is so helpful and precious!! Om Shanthi!!